Mystique, Thrill, anxiety, confusion, and most importantly Fear.
Those are the fundamentals of the first "anything" in life, those are the fundamentals of being amateur in any thing, these are the physiology of our life.
Because of the stupid rules of our universe, in order to reach the good side of nearly anything, you need first to go through and endure its shitty part. For you to be a skilled driver, you need to screw your car up in every possible way in your learning era, in order to have a good social life, you need to suffer quite sometime with people till you find true friends. if you want to be a good doctor, you will most definitely do some major errors (hopefully not so damaging) to the patients in you amateur days. To put it simply, you need withstand the shitty amateur beginning in order to reach a comfy beautiful professional life.
The same applies for your first fight with ur soul mate. At first you think you got it all, your brain waves are just resonating synchronously, nothing can ever get wrong, then something does, and all of a suddenly a surge of Anxiety and fear swamps your soul, you feel agitated, fragile, and scared as hell, "this is not what i signed up for!" you say. "i am in it to be happy not to fight, life is hard enough without this burden" you say. well, Wrong!.
Think of it not as a fight, think of it as an experience that molds your mind, that change it to be more resilient. an experience that brings u closer to your other half, an experience that will molds both of you into one, believe that this 1st fight is following God's way of running the universe, believe that this 1st fight is the way that will transform your relationship from amateur-ship to the 1st step of pro-ship :)
But before doing any of the above make sure that you got yourself a true soul mate that worth fighting your ego for , and thanks to God i know i do :).
